Burned Haystack Dating Method

the answer is no. Dating apps are determined to waste your time and attention. They have more in common with a slot machine than a singles bar. It’s just the way it is.

That means it’s up to you to gamify it back.

This method is imperfect, and the corresponding facebook group is increasingly cult-like and dogmatic (but do break out the popcorn and enjoy — it’s a wild ride) but it gives a really good framework for saving yourself a lot of time and grief. Much of it is intuitive, but it gives you the permission to follow intuition and challenge when second-guessing/ asking if that you’re expecting too much.